The union
between a man and a woman during marriage is a pact to create
a family life conducive to happiness, comfort and progress for
themselves and their children. But sometimes, one partner such
as the wife becomes a burden to the family particularly the
husband.
The following are the types of wife that a man doesn’t want
to have:
1) Extravagant Wife
There are wives who may be judged to be objectively extravagant.
Their spending or desire to spend goes beyond their husband’s
income. They insist in buying only the best and the most expensive
food, clothing, furniture, appliances, etc. They irresponsibly
plunge their family into debt. They are carried away by the
desire to keep up with their neighbors and have everything their
neighbors have.
2) Economically Dissatisfied Wife
A wife may not be actually extravagant, but she may become so
dissatisfied with her husband’s income that she gives him no
peace. She compares his income with that of other men whom she
knows or perhaps she could have married, and constantly reminds
him of productive inferiority. She pesters him with orders to
demand a raise, or to change jobs, or take leisure time jobs
until he is almost frantic.
3) Jealous Wife
No wife can help feeling hurt if her husband puts and keeps
her in a secondary place among his human loves. A husband who
neglects his wife because of attachment to his mother or relatives,
is violating justice, and is wrong in brushing off his wife’s
resentment with the charge of jealousy.
But there can be real jealousy in wives. Wives
are generally guilty of this fault if they resent even the normal
ties that their husbands maintain with their families. They
are oversensitive to lack of affection from their in-laws. Sometimes
they see slights and insults where none were intended by their
in-laws. Sometimes too, they even wrongly insist that their
husbands renounce all contact with their families because of
the fancied slights the wives have received.
Wives too can be jealous of their husband’s
time. We by no means condone the husband who gives little or
none of his free time to his wife, wither to help her with unending
work to share her few leisure hours. But a wife is guilty of
jealousy if she begrudges her husband an occasional game, outing
or socialization.
4) Wife With Wrong Attitude Toward Sex
Sexual compatibility and cooperativeness is one of the important
keys to a happy marriage. But it is rare to find a perfect sexual
compatibility. The right adjustment must be sought, both to
the duties of the basic contract entered into through marriage,
and to the reasonable needs and wishes of the partner. It is
in this matter of adjustment that many wives fail
5) Escapist Wife
This is the wife who, contrary, to the instincts of most normal
women, has no interest in the work of homemaking and children.
She tries to escape these tasks by assuming all kinds of activities
outside her home. Many a wife who takes a salaried job outside
her home is an escapist wife. They seek escape from their primary
duties through political, social, civic and even charitable
activities. Others still, seek escape through a constant round
of visits to friends, parties, unnecessary trips; anything to
get out of their homes. |
